My good friend, a Pretty Female (she recently became single, but forget it) became single. It ended earlier than i expected because i know very well her ex is not serious in this. Still, the Pretty Female (let’s call her PF, Problem Face) accepted the proposal of a relationship. She knew this wasn’t serious and she said she wanted to have fun and try it out. I said, ok then, go ahead, don’t go too deep.
Few months later, she went deep and at that point the ex (let’s call him X) broke up with Problem Face. In other words, she actually developed feelings for X. Then, suddenly it was over. Pretty sudden though.
X might be a jerk, but who cares. Not that you wanna care. I don’t care either. Still, it reaches back to me.
I took her, with another good friend, for a spin and swim later in the evening. She cried after the swim. She said she cried throughout the night and unable to sleep and she cried again in the evening with us this time.
Its heart wrenching to see someone broke down to tears all of a sudden. What she been through reminds of my experience. It reaches back to me. I somehow feel very sorry for her. I been through it myself. (yeah, i’ve been dumped by a girl, don’t laugh, LOL. But the dumping process took longer than a simple sms. It goes a long way.)
It’s the third time that someone close to me is going through the heartbreak. And for all those three cases, they resort to vengeance.
Once they have their heart broken by an ex, the are sad. Very sad. That’s for sure. And to make it feel better, the short term solution is resort to vengeance.
I hate the idea of vengeance. However, I had that slightest idea of vengeance when i was (finally) dumped. But all it takes to release the emotions is songs written for the heartbreaks (Coldplay’s X&Y and My Chemical Romance) and a few pages of rants that i wrote in Microsoft Word 2003. After that, i feel better.
Only then i realize there is a better world than vengeance. Once i’ve managed to put it all behind me, i realized that vengeance only makes you bitter, darker and emotionally unstable. I don’t like that. I understand why vengeance is one of the 7 sins.
For some time, PF will be going through the pain. She may think it’s hard to get back up again but don’t worry. She will get help from many. I want to reach out to her as how this thing reaches to me. I don’t want another person resort to vengeance. It’ll be hard to turn back.
Note: Problem Face has a double meaning. PF means face problem (a word of bully or poking fun). PF also means FACE YOUR PROBLEM (with a positive attitude.) SAY NO TO VENGEANCE!
